It’s Time To Stop Being “Mr. Nice” andStart Being
“Mr. Holy Sh*t, I Want Him”
The materials I provide will show you how to empower yourself by getting a clear understanding of how women work, what they want and why they do the things they do. As well as help you gain a strong masculine character, whose presence women will be attracted to from miles away.
I am pretty sure you are asking yourself “How is SHE going to help me gain a strong masculine character”. Trust me I have heard it before which is why I want to explain so we can eliminate this belief and move forward.
BELIEF: Women Give Bad Advice To Men About What Women Want
TRUTH: Most women give bad advice to men about what women want.
To be fair, many women do not actually comprehend what women want or why they do the things they do. Most women will be able to tell you exactly what they WISH they wanted, but very few are able to say what they genuinely want. In fact, about 5 months ago I put out an add asking for women with opinions on what women want from men.
I got over 600 responses from women around the world. Beautiful, intelligent women who I later discovered has absolutely no idea what it was they wanted, what they were attracted to or what they responded to. I was shocked. But one thing I did learn is that women were very interested in being heard even. Save that note for later. For some women, it’s difficult to admit the behaviors they respond too.
This is either because they are embarrassed or because they really don’t have a clue but desperately wantto figure it out. Most women hold themselves on a social pedestaland are very fearful of seemingly knocking themselves down. Now, there are some women out there who are different.
Take me for example. I am a woman who deeply understands whatgoes on inside my mind and I am ableto articulate WHAT, HOW and WHY I do the things I do and think the way I think. I am also a woman who is not embarrassed about how you will perceive me for revealing the truths behind my actions. I am just like all the other women in this world and exactly like the women you want to be with.
I have beenattracted to men, lovedmen, hated men, been hurt by men, got revenge on men, felt insecure, had sex with men, rejected men, been wishy-washy, led a man on, flirted with men for funand pleasure, teased men, broken up with men for no reason, avoided men, flaked on men, given out my number with intention of answering the phone, had one night stands, been in long term relationships with men and placed men in the friendzone when they deserved a romantic chance. I have experienced every scenario you have experienced but on the otherend. It's not so much that I’m going to help you be a step ahead of her in the game -it's so that you're actually really in the game and playing it 'with' her. The Top 10 SECRETS Every Man Must KnowAbout Women
SECRET#1: Looks Don't Matter To Women
Trust me I can hear the “Yeah Right” statements blasting through your mind right now. But it’s true and here’s why: Men make decisions based on factsand women make their decisions based on emotions/feelings. Therefore when meeting a new man, women will decide if they are attracted to them because of how that man makes them feel. Male Translation:LOOKS ARE NOT AS IMPORTANT TO WOMEN AS THEY ARE TO MEN.
Listen, when a man first approaches a woman she judges him entirely on his looks and the how he presents himself. What else does she have to judge on? It’s only been 5 seconds. But something interesting happens to a woman after she interacts with a man and it’s usually right after the first 5-10 seconds.
She starts to FEEL him. And from that feeling, she can automatically sense that mans character and value. A man’s looks start to blur and his appearance magically changes depending on how he makes a woman feel. At The Wing Girl Method we call this ENERGY.Think about how women describe their friends to other possible suitors. Any other woman that a female “feels” close to or cares about becomes attractive to her. Which is why you may constantly be set up with fat, hairy, sally! Not attractive to you but beautiful to your female friend.
She valued this woman and because of how she feels about her, believes she is attractive. Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, good looking or plain, fat or thin, bald or hair, if you can master the art ofprojecting a quality energy that women can feel, you can light up a woman's primal attraction circuitry like a Christmas tree!This is great news for you because amplifying your quality energy is a learnable skill that can take you from being a complete failure with women to being a rock star.
SECRET #2: Women Reveal, Men Conceal
I constantly find myself saying the following statement to the men I work with, “Don’t Throw Up On Women” Translation, do not immediately dump every bit your personal information onto a woman. Take time to get to know someone. Decide whether or not they worthy of hearing information about you. You want to be sure you are sharing pertinent information about yourself with someone that actually values it. Throwing up information is what women do. Think about it. They bond by revealing information to one another.
When women meet for the first time they huddle in a corner and see how many times they can say “me too”. This brings them closer together and forms a bonding connection for FRIENDSHIP. Meaning, NON-SEXUAL companionship, hear what I am saying? There is a fine line between showing you understand a woman and showing that you are a woman. Example of Friendship Conversation: “Oh wow! I had the same thing in my past relationship. My ex was completely selfish and had no regard for my opinions when making decisions.
I remember this time when…” Example of Attractive/Leading Conversation: “I have had my ups and downs in relationships but each time I learn somethingnew and I gain more patience. (Make eye contact, soft smile.) So what are we going to order?” Little bit of info = a lot of confidence and SEX APPEAL! As a man, if you reveal too much too soon you will wind up directly in the Friend Zone.
SECRET#3: Women Have Baggage and Insecurities
Just like men we have had experiences in our lives that lead us to who we are today. We may have been hurt, we may have been taken advantage of, we may be shy or we may not have learned how to appreciate ourselves.Just because a woman is attractive does not mean that she is confident. In fact it usually means just the opposite.
YES it’s true that is easier for a woman to get sex than it is for a man. A woman may be able to walk into a room and instantly get a man to agree to have sex with her, but she will not be able to find a good man with a genuine, authentic character, that respects her. Understand that you are not the only one with anxious, eager thoughts running through your head. Women experience exactly the same thing. TIP: If you can show a woman that you GET her insecurities and that you like her in spite of them she will instantly melt.
SECRET #4: Women Are Good
You must believe that women are good because they are. You may have been hurt in the past. Women may have treated you poorly but you must not hold past experiences against all women. You also must get rid of any negative stereotypes you have towards women because the more walls you hold up the more difficult it will become to connect, form relationships and get the women you want. Just as women need to learn that men are good you must believe that women are good. They are just different. And because they are different and you don't understand their behaviors you may have negative feelings towards women.
They are just different. You must eliminate all your past beliefs about women and place them back to a place where you hold them as BEAUTIFUL inside and out in your mind if you ever want to master seduction. Women have done no wrong; they are wonderful and amazing they are just different than you.
SECRET #5: Women Do Not Test Men For Sport, They Test Because They Feel Insecure Contrary to popular belief women do not test men for sport. They test men because of their own insecurity.Do not panic if a woman asks you a question where you feel she is testing you. Remember that this “test” is just a symptom of an insecurity that is brewing inside her. Nothing to do with you, that is until you panic!
Secret #5.5:Women aim to be the perfect, idealistic woman. The woman who is fun, light and free of all insecurities. Our goal is to be viewed as the cool girl that is DIFFERENT and more SPECIAL than other females.
Because of this goal, we keep our lips sealed on needs, wants and frustrations. In the long run this always backfires on us because at a weak moment it will all come bursting out of us, usually in an anxious, attacking manner. You men are the total opposite and in my opinion much smarter. Men state their needs at the time they feel them so that their needs can be met right away.
You guys are definitely onto something! Handle any situation that you feel as a “test” with calmness and grace and understand that the question is coming from a place of insecurity. If you can help calm her anxiety and let her know that she has not ruined her “REP”, then you will be her hero.
SECRET #6: You Will Never Go From Friend To Lover By Being Patient
Have you ever heard the story about the wimpy guy who was in love with a girl for 2 years? Well what happened was this. He focused so much attention on this girl, listened to her complain about boyfriends, went shopping with her, was her shoulder to cry on and was there for her whenever she needed him. He was so focused on this one girl thathe totally ignored other potential women because he was sure one day she would come around.
Well, turns about that she did! And he didn’t even have to say anything. One day the girl turned to him and said “OMG, why hadn’t I ever noticed you before. You are exactly the man I want and have always needed. I love you and want to have sex with you every day to make up for lost time.” You want to know why you have never heard this story before? Because it didn’t happen and will never happen. That is not how women work and using this this subtle form ofmanipulation tactic of back routing to attraction will always fail. Don’t ask to be a friend if what you want is to get busy. Ask to get busy.
SECRET #7: Women Detest Bad Boys
It seems somebody started spreading a rumor to the men of the world that women have absolutely no interest in being with a Nice Guy. I want to tell you, that is absolute rubbish. That's right I said it RUBBISH!!!!
Think about that statement logically. "Women Don't Want Nice Men They Want To Be With Bad Boys."Do you really think that women sit around and say to one another "Oh Sally, I can't wait till one day I meet an a**hole who treats me poorly, is unreliable, never returns my phone calls and belittles me on a daily basis". I understand that there are some women out there who do crave the Bad Boys I defined above but be warned that these are probably not the type of women you would want to be with. These women are ridden with insecurity and baggage and will be a bigger headache than they are worth.
I totally understand how and where this rumor came from and how this whole misunderstanding came to fruition. It’s because every day you see women you want, with other guys who you know are jerks, and can't understand why they are with them. You also can't understand why these women don't break away or want a better man. A better man like you.
So you start to believe the rumors. You start to believe that all women want to be with Bad Boys, Jerks and A**holes. I can tell you for a fact that women do not want to be with Bad Boys, Jerks and A**holes. They want to be with Nice Guys. But the right type of Nice Guy. Nice Guys with an edge.
SECRET #8: Women Do Not Want A Man Who…
1. Wants to be mothered
2. Is needy and dependent
3. Has no back bone and can be walked all over
4. Is not positive
5. Cannot handle tension
6. Is aggressive and abrasive
7. Doesn’t know how to listen
8. Can’t understand women
9. Is not proactive
10. Has no life outside of the women he dates
SECRET #9: Women Want A MAN Who Is SelfAssured, Calm, Collected, Comfortable and Direct
I want to go into greater detail on each of these characteristics so that you can understand why each of them is important to women.
This is man who is confident and believes he is worthy of great things.He is not worried about rejection, never focuses on the “right thing” to say and always goes after what the wants. Not in an aggressive, jerky way, but in a confident way.
Calm A calm man is one that can handle tension and has emotional control. This means that if a girl does not call him back he doesn't freak out. He doesn't replay the interaction with the woman over and over and over again to realize where he made mistakes. A calm man does not fall to pieces when confronted with a difficult situation. For example, when a woman throws out a “female test” his way. A man who panics and gets emotional when faced with a “female test” is not properly handling tension. Therefore he is failing as a man in a woman’s eyes.
Collected, means having your act together. You are not overly needy. You don't write 5 paragraph long intro emails and you do not feel the need to instantly respond to texts. You have a life. You have boundaries and you know what you want.
Have you ever been around someone that you know is comfortable in his or her own skin? It's intimidating right? It makes you more uncomfortable and it makes you want do things for that person or with that person. You feel this way because you want to become this way. Everyone wants to be comfortable. Especially women.If women are with a man who exudes comfort, then they will feel secure, safe and totally turned on.
Have you ever asked a woman what you are doing this weekend? This question has multiple answers. One could be: "I am going out with 5 other men who are not you."Instead of making the above statement, try being more direct by saying “I want to take you out this weekend.” This statement is clear, honest and leaves no room for interpretation.
Gaining the ability to directly state your needs and what you want is by far one of the most attractive characteristics a man can possess. Being direct gets you what you want. Read the Case Study below on How To Properly Ask Out A Girl and see how being direct will always get you what you want.
Ability To Lead
This is the most important one of all.
For Women: Feeling Feminine = Attraction
So how do you get a woman to feel her most feminine? By leading. Leading means, taking charge by pulling a woman into your world.
You see a woman you like from across the room. You approach her and you:
A) Say hi and wait for her to initiate conversation with you and then follow HER conversation
B) Introduce yourself, looking her straight in the eye with a slight smile and tell her she caught your eye. Then you LEAD the conversation in the direction you please. Ask her questions about herself that require more than a 1-word response and don’t dominate the conversation, LEAD it in the right direction.
SECRET #10: I Give Great Advice To Men
This secret is really 12secrets rolled into 1.
I wanted to take this opportunity to really address some core questions/issues you may be experiencing with women. I know that at some point you have also wanted to ask at least one of these questions. I have selected 13 emails that men from around the world have written to me and pasted them below along with my responses.